If the food doesn't meet all of Apollo's expectations, he won't eat it. Even if you have told him that what he's about to eat is familiar food item, if it doesn't meet his expectations, he won't even entertain it.
When Apollo uses his "words", and another 4 year old child disregards his words... an incident happens, accusations are made, and Apollo's not verbal enough to state what did or did not transpire.
Puzzling diagnoses, like Autism, can bring forth a flood of unexpected emotions.
Some have to go through the 5 stages of grief before they reach acceptance - and some will never reach acceptance.
This is our reality.